“People pleasing is essentially one of the biggest flaws being human. More people are guilty of people pleasing than being selfish, I reckon. Everyone does it. Hell, I’m sat completely on my own away from home in an empty flat in a university accommodation, after a great first day, and all I can think about are the impressions I might have made on the people I met today. The people I might meet tomorrow. The people I might meet next week.”
– Anonymous
“I think loving yourself first is a power of your mind, because not many people know their worth while trying to win someone else’s love.”
-Yllka Bicajj
“We owe ourselves the same amount of love and kindness we show others. The world might think that’s selfish but you can never give someone as much love when you don’t have any left. Self care and self love is very important.”
– Sana
Issue 1

When it came to turning the issue of the media being a silencer in our lives, I really tried to think about how the situation would make someone feel. In this case, I used the venus fly trap and brambles to represent the media and almost suffocate the victim in the picture.

The Silenced Inc
Beauty, something everyone seeks. Something that nowadays with the conception imposed by the media in the XXI century can become a disease. A conception that hurts millions and that can sometimes be, unreachable. But is that really beauty?

The definition of ‘beauty’ that the media sells us is constructed from two pillars: the first one being the models, who are tall, super skinny, with barely no curves and the second is the perfect athletic body, with thin yet firm legs, big bums, flat stomach and a slim waist. Both of those are extremely hard to reach and sometimes even impossible to, because we all have different bodies, different shapes, different metabolisms. But whoever said their mere conceptions define ‘beauty’? During ancient Greece, busty women with thick thighs and a wider waists were considered ‘the most beautiful’. During the Renaissance, women who were ‘beautiful’ had to have a round body, wide hips and were busty. During the Roaring Twenties, ‘beauty’ was an androgen look, no curves and short hair. During the Golden Years of Hollywood, Marilyn Monroe was seen as the perfect representation of what was seen as ‘beauty’; curvy body with a slim waist.

I’m sure by now, it’s clear that the definition of ‘beauty’ has never been something static. It’s varied and will continue to vary.
So why is it that the media is so sure what they point out as beauty is really beauty? The media of today is essentially driven by the capitalist society, which demands that things sell – and the only thing that sells more than beauty products is sex. Young girls thrive for that ideal conception of beauty, so they keep on bombarding us to believe that we are not beautiful and we have to continue to spend and knock ourselves down, hurt ourselves, starve to reach that. They silence our beauty so their companies have a bigger net worth, yet they don’t see the pain that they’re inflicting.
So don’t look at magazines and think you have to fit in that box! You are beautiful, whether you are short, tall, thick, thin, black, white, Asian, Latina. You are beautiful in your own way. And we have to start to see that beauty doesn’t rely only on looks, as media leads us to believe – but the real beauty is kept in how you see the world, in what you like. Beauty is in the rain, beauty is in the plants that grow wild and the flowers that tame the wilderness, beauty is in the wind.
Real beauty is usually in the little things, that no one stops to look at because the media, money and greed blinds us. Worst of all, silences us. So let’s learn how to speak up. This is our voice for you.

Written by Katherine Servat

Skinny shaming is an issue I’ve dealt with from a very young age and it’s an issue I’m very aware of. So if this is something you can relate to, by all means share your thoughts below. Likewise, if this isn’t something you’ve experienced or dealt with, you can still show compassion towards the issue I hope. Lately in the media, I feel like skinny shaming has become a real trend. But it’s not all that funny for people on the wrong end of it. Body positivity shouldn’t be one-sided. It’s applicable for all shapes and sizes.

This drawing was inspired yet again by the lovely Newsha Syeh who I’ve said time and time again inspires me in more ways than one. She is so comfortable in her own skin and the way she stands up to those judging her differences from everyone else is super admirable.
Be the person you love being. Not the person someone else wants you to be. Draw yourself a happy bubble and live in it.

“I’ve dealt with and continue to deal with skinny shaming. I’ve always been skinny. My family even nicknamed me, “bones” and kids at school always questioned me about being so thin and pale. 7 yrs ago, I was diagnosed with leukaemia and this was the main reason I was so thin. My medication made me nauseous but I had no choice but to take them. It got to the point where they had to even had to put me on an appetite medicine. This helped, but as soon I was taken off of, I would lose all the healthy weight I’d gained. This continued until last year. I had to receive a bone marrow transplant. Since then, I have been better. I’m still underweight but it’s no longer anything serious.” – Anonymous
“People will just walk up to me and ask if I’m anorexic or whether I make myself throw up. Like how could you just walk up to someone and say that? I hate how people immediately get mad when you say something even a little bit mean about someone plus sized, but then as soon as someone says,”Oh my god, you’re so skinny! You have chicken legs!!” they expect us to not get offended and deal with it instead. The double standard is absolutely ridiculous.” – Anonymous
“I’m so thankful for the Internet for this. I’ve been a victim of skinny shaming myself too for very long like how can someone think it’s normal to call somebody else anorexic? I’ve tried over eating so many times just to go and throw up at the end of the day. I’ve finally realized that this is a part of who I am and I can’t or won’t ever try to change or be myself for the sake of society. Preach, the message you’re spreading with this post is amazing. Your bodyshape should not matter to people anyways, I don’t understand how so many people feel the need to ask skinnier persons all the time why they look as they do and call them names. I’ve experienced skinny shaming often enough myself, and the questions I get ask are always so rude, it is kind of sad. People need to accept all the different bodytypes out there, without questioning every single one of them and pointing out their flaws.”

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